The Power of ‘And’: Embracing Life’s Complexities with DBT

One of the most powerful skills I have learned so far in DBT is the power of ‘and.’ I can feel two opposing things at once, for instance. I can be sad and safe at the same time. I can feel lonely and not be alone simultaneously. Life is complex. A “both/and” way to describe my experiences tend to be much more accurate and helpful than “either/or”.